The Antidote to the Three False Beliefs of Eating Disorder Treatment

The three false tenets of eating disorder treatment—blame, “full recovery” and ultimatums—are an unfortunate byproduct of poor clinical decision making that causes more harm than good. The three falsehoods often become foundational beliefs for people with eating disorders and cause significant psychological harm to patients seeking help. As a result, patients need therapy to recognize the beliefs as false and reverse the detrimental effects on their own recovery.

First and foremost, no one ought to blame themselves for an eating disorder. Many factors lead to the start of an eating disorder, and they all have one thing in common: no one chooses to get sick. People surreptitiously fall into disordered behavior like restricting, overexercising, binging or purging and find that the physical and emotional effects of these actions are very powerful. These behaviors may lead to an emotional release, physiological improvement in symptoms or even relief from the effects of an undiagnosed medical issue. Every single person in treatment needs to know the eating disorder is not their fault.

Second, everyone’s path to get well is individualized. I often lay out broad strokes of what recovery looks like when I first meet patients, but those are only general suggestions of the paths people take. There is no right way to get better with one correct end result. Life in recovery still has the ups and downs of anyone’s life but is no longer dominated by the torturous thoughts and behaviors of an eating disorder. The idea of a “full recovery” only places more blame and shame on the person already struggling and doesn’t reflect the reality of getting better.

Last, there is no place for threats in recovery. If clinicians are unsure how to help a patient, it’s the responsibility of the provider to look for help, not to place that onus on the patient for not getting better fast enough.

The through line of these three erroneous beliefs about eating disorder treatment uncovers the consistent message of blame on the patient for having an eating disorder and for not getting better. Treatment focused on blame insists that there is only one way to get better. Either the plan works for you or it’s your fault.

Healing from misguided treatment necessitates a clear message: blame and shame don’t belong in any eating disorder treatment setting. The antidote to this approach of poor care is treatment grounded in compassion, kindness and sincerity.

At the heart of an eating disorder is the internal critical voice telling someone how they are a horrible, despicable person. The message from providers needs to reinforce the opposite so the person knows they are good and instead are sick and need help in order to get well.

It’s not a lot to ask of any provider, yet it’s often hard to find kindness when seeking help for an eating disorder. This clear approach to eating disorder treatment and to the person struggling can go a long way to help people get well.